It is hard to believe that I have let a week go by since posting anything here, but the last posting date says it all, so a week it is.
A busy week flew by – also one with Brian at home. Each year I do something with him every day that is special, leading up to his actual birthday. It makes a whirlwind week to say the least. His birthday party isn’t until next Saturday. It is at his Dad’s – I’ll show up and be Disneyland mom.
How funny it is that we spend our young years wishing to hurry and grow older and our older years wishing we are younger. Brian is thrilled to be growing older. I wish I could slow it down. On Friday at school Brian proceeded to get into a fight. The other kid got detention, because luckily for Brian the Principal knows him through his teachers, the specialists and all the meetings. The one thing that has been a constant is that Brian is a nice boy. The Principal punished the other kid. But of course, in Brian style, he was over the top upset when i picked him up from school. I then had to tell him, that as a boy, that would not be his last fight. I then went on to tell him my favorite "berry pie fight" story about my brother when he was in eigth grade. It's a funny story and it made Brian laugh. I think he thought I was going to be mad. I am not about to get upset over playground boundaries.
Last week I was to interview (2nd level) for a well paying trainer position. I was up for the cause until I got an email from their HR Recruiter. Three disclosures came to me titled the following:
1. DISCLOSURE AND AUTHORIZATION
DISCLOSURE: A consumer report may be procured for employment purposes on the behalf of HF. A consumer report or investigative consumer report include…
2. NOTICE TO California APPLICANTS AND EMPLOYEES REGARDING CONSUMER REPORTS AND INVESTIGATIVE CONSUMER REPORTS. A consumer report or an investigative consumer report that may include information concerning your credit worthiness, credit standing, credit capacity, character general reputation, personal characteristics or mode of living may be contained in connection with your application and/or continued employment with the company…
3. HF BACKGROUND INVESTIGATION CONSENT
I hereby authorize HF and or any of its affiliated entitles and or any of their employees, contractor or agents collectively to make an independent investigation of my background…
They go on and on … I am tempted to scan and post what they look like, because when I got them I got so redheaded pissed off that I wanted to fly and meet the President and tell him what I thought of their “up front” disclosures. And, that for this, the job does not even pay close to what I am worth.
I have worked for the Royal Bank of Canada, NAMC, FCMC, Great Western Bank, Exchange Bank, LBS, Continental Savings and ATG and NEVER have I EVER been given this kind of up front in-your-face -“do-you-fit-in-white-America’-bullshit-we’ll inspect-you- and-you-had-better-like-it paperwork in my life!
I called and cancelled the second interview, then sent and email to the recruiter.
After September 11th, I lost my tech job as telecom took a nose dive and got on airplanes to commute all over the US for work. I traveled on business flights when there were only three other people and the flight crew. Every time the plane took off, I prayed we would be safe; every time we landed I thanked God for a safe flight.
I have been padded down more than most inmates and had my belongings searched in the name of national security so that all of us might be safer in the skies. I was glad to put up with the heightened security, as I explained to my son repeatedly why I had to leave him and that I would be coming home. In the wake of United Flight 93, many can understand what business travelers think about when we fly. We never forgot for once, and we traveled to keep business going and support our families.
And you want to inspect me to see if I ‘measure up”? I don’t think so. I say you can take this job and go to hell. I will clean bathrooms first.
Add in this week some guy locally from the Internet who has been pressuring me to meet him. I was not sure I really liked him and something about his manner in instant messages put me off. I am so busy with Brian – we know I live to support his life – which men have to be a certain fatherly type to possibly ‘fit in’. I am just not a girl to date, just to date.
I like to date people I could be a friend with, who understand my life. If we do not get past being friends, then we have both gained a friend, and if we do, our relationship is based on a solid friendship. A win- win.
But this guy always blamed other people for everything. He was innocent in his last break up … innocent in this …innocent in that … a victim. I do not trust victimization stances – especially from a man. Men will say “I never saw the break up coming” then you talk with the woman and she gives a laundry list of the things that were wrong that she tried to fix for years where he ignored the problem. She gets fed up, and leaves.
I am honest when guys ask me straightforward questions and I told him my reasons for not really wanting to even start a friendship. I mean, I hardly have time for my current best friends that I adore, and add in new friend Mc Yummy (who I want to get to know) and my life is pretty full. So, he had better be low maintenance. This guy was high maintenance online. It was like he couldn't understand I have this crazy busy life and somehow my not having time for him had something ulterior to it. good god - get over yourself! He was a pain in the ass online and I was sooooooo grateful this week when he finally got mad at me and gave up. TA DA. Problem solved. Of course, in his fashion – it is my entire fault. Ok, I bite … it is my entire fault.
There…better?
Uh, FYI: ..."Only in the garden of the Selfish Giant it was still winter..."...
Now I have to turn my attention back to what job I want to do next. I have some other feelers out there … just keep me in your prayers. But now that the sun is shining business is picking up. Life as a single mom…oiy.
Hopefully this will be a calmer week …
Until next time-
C