A friend asked me my guy history and why I avoid relationships. Since I answered her, I will answer here.
1. Mark. Fourth grade. Walked me home from school everyday carrying my books. He moved away in the summer of 4th to 5th grade and broke my heart.
2. Stacy. My cousin. Our parents thought it was cute. He grew up to be a Yankee pitcher and I couldn't stand him.
3. Dave. Hockey player. Dated 4 months. He broke up with me to sleep with an older girl. They made out on all the benches at school.
I was still a virgin.
4. Steve. Hockey player, welder and 21. I was 17. My parents were mortified. Oh yes, he had a motorcycle and long hair. We dated a year and a half. When my father died he never came to the funeral, instead got drunk with his friends. I never spoke to him again.
5. Stacy. Roofer and definitely not my cousin. Dated 9 months. I was in a desperate state of depression over my father's death, left my home and moved in the extra bedroom at his mother's home. His mother was a raging drunk who became meaner and more abusive with each sip. My brother brought me back home. I broke up with him in our family room. He became abusive and violent when I would not get back together with him.
6. Bob. Basketball jock and collection manager. Dated 1 year. Friends from Rosenburgs introduced us and none of my girlfriends liked him. He was 6'7" and I liked that I could wear tall shoes. I became anorexic while dating him and got down to 117. He thought I still wasn't thin enough. One good breeze and I would have landed in Alaska. I found him in bed with his secretary. She was heavier than me. He called me on their wedding day. I told my brother to tell him I died.
7. Rich. UPS manager, college student and pre-olympic runner. Dated and lived with 7 years. Went to college with my brother and my brother kept trying to get me to meet him. I thought all my brother's friends were nerds (because they were nice guys - foolish girl). It's a cute story how we met and he was my best friend. We experienced all our "firsts" together and traveled all over. He suprised me with a trip to the Olympics. We had a beautiful home, nice car and everything a young couple could want, except children. One Thanksgiving weekend, when I was 29, I walked out the door with only one bag - leaving everything behind. It took him 3 weeks to call me. Really, in the end I think it took that long for him to notice I was gone. He still didn't want marriage or children, so we were done. I was devasted. I lost everything, but most importantly, I lost my best friend.
8. Brad. Rich country club party boy. 3 months. I was still hurting over Rich and found him annoying and irresponsible. I decided to go back to school and study real estate and was conveniently gone whenever he called.
9. Steve. State Treasury Officer. 9 weeks. He always found fault with everything, not to mention his strange conspiracy theories, so I broke up with him over the phone. He destroyed the inside of his Condo. I decided to leave working in SF and come back north. I missed Rich.
10. Terry. Loan officer. Dated: 9 months. Married: 7 years. He gave me Brian, but there has never been that soul connection. He made me laugh and was a great cook. I married him because I wanted children, my heart was still hurting over Rich. Terry is the most selfish man I have ever met, although since falling in love with his latest girlfriend, he is improving. If it wasn't for Brian, I think I would have killed him 3 years ago...lol.
11. Mark. Wealthy business owner and pilot. Married. Off and on 3 years. This did not work out well. Classic tale of girl falling in love with a man who was never going to leave his wife. It should be noted that I did not know he was married, but found out by looking in his briefcase at his checkbook. I wrote him one of those angry bitter emails as a goodbye. He had nothing to say except, "You're right".
12. Patrick. 9 months. See guys 6, 4 and 3...oh yes ...and he was a selfish prick and a terrible father. Everyone I knew couldn't stand him, in the end, neither could I.
13. Tony. SVP of Marketing. Complicated. He is married now.
Since then I have dated Keith, Bill, Oscar, Aemon, Dan, Vincent, Joy, Dale, Mark II, Gordon, John, Ryan and Tom.
And the reason I am not with anyone seriously... ? ... one would just have to read above. I have not picked well in the past, except for Rich maybe, but there were problems there too. I pick selfish self-centered men and I am just beginning to figure out why.
My dad was wonderfully giving, so my issues do not come from being his daughter. Since I have Brian and he is such a love, I am not about to take any chances on a selfish man. When I am sure I am not going to pick from ones like the above group, then I will think about it again.
For now, I am focusing on me,where I am going with my life, and studying everything I can on Hashimotos.
...But do let me know if there is such a thing as a single, available giving kind nice man...I would like to clone him.
Until next time-
C
PS. Bob lol or is it John...?...lol...(I aways messed up his name and never understood why) wants an honorable mention, except I don't remember how long we dated. He was before Patrick. Professional golfer? ....and...?
he says to say "he was a great kisser but a worthless man at the time..."
